"Opposites attract" is the most over-quoted relationship advice on the internet. The reality is more useful: some differences predict resilience, while others predict friction.
What actually matters
- Values alignment — the single strongest long-term predictor.
- Conflict style — matched repair scripts beat matched temperament.
- Energy direction — introvert/extravert mismatches are workable; conflict-avoidance + pursuer pairs are not.
What doesn't
Hobbies, favorite genres, and surface-level "vibes" predict almost nothing past month three.
The Main Squeeze view
Our compatibility engine weighs archetype-pattern overlap, attachment patterns, and stated life goals — not just letter-overlap. That's why two Truehearts can be a worse match than a Trueheart and a Momentum with aligned values.